“So you’re KILLING IT at work, but it’s KILLING YOU inside…?”
In my work through the years with all kinds of people, I can’t tell you how many times that little phrase has summed up EXACTLY why someone feels “stuck” in their life as a whole.
They are seeing all sorts of success in one area (often work-related since that’s where we spent a HUGE amount of our time), but they can’t shake the feeling that something is “off” in their life, like things are out of balance somehow.
That feeling soon becomes frustration, and before long that frustration starts “leaking out” in the form of either lashing out at the people they care about or withdrawing in discouragement.
I’ve found that when people are in that “stuck” state, they may be able to keep “killing it” at work and even put on a good front for their family and friends…most of the time. However, bit by bit that feeling eats away at them, leaving them more and more empty inside.
Ever felt that way?
Maybe you feel that way now?
More often than not, I’ve found that when people get to that place it’s because there’s a HUGE CONFLICT between where they want to GO and how they’re trying to GET there.
Something is their journey is out of alignment with their goal.
Over the next few days I’d like to share with you the “7-Stage Growth Journey” framework I use to help people “retrace their steps” and get un-stuck as quickly as possible.
I hope it’s helpful to you.
STAGE 1: The Promise (this is about motivation)
Every journey towards growth starts with the promise of something better.
It might be something we want to GAIN (more money, more love, more freedom) or something we want to avoid LOSING (a job, a relationship, a place in the group).
Either way, just like objects in Newton’s first law of thermodynamics, PEOPLE will not move unless they are compelled by an external force, and the promise of something better can provide that motivation to change.
For some people, they get stuck right at the start because they don’t have a BIG enough or CLEAR enough reason to grow.
The promise is like a spark, and some people just don’t have it.
What does this mean for you? It means if you’re stuck where you are, maybe it’s because you don’t SEE the possibility of anything better, or FEEL like there’s anything wrong with where you are.
If you want to make progress in your personal or business growth, maybe it’s time to seek out some better inspiration.
[to be continued…]
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